What are YOU good at?

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

Do you take the time to look at yourself? Or try to ignore who is looking back at you?

Do you ask yourself questions? Or have conversations with yourself?

Do you berate yourself and put yourself down?


What might happen if when you look in the mirror you ask yourself, “What do I do well?” How would you answer?

Try it now! Look in a mirror and ask yourself “What do I do well?”

Can you find 5 things you do well? What about 10?

Do you struggle to identify what you do well?

Is it easier to list our faults, our shortcomings?


Faults and shortcomings are only such when we compare ourselves to others.

Faults are in relation to what or to whom? Shortcomings are based on someone else’s expectation, real or perceived.

Focus on YOU are good at

What would happen for you if every time you look in the mirror, you ask yourself the question “What do I do well?”

How would this question change your mood? Your confidence? Your attitude? Your behaviour?

Now think about the other people in your life

If you are a parent, look at your child and ask, “What do they do well?” and do I focus on this or do I focus on what I perceive as their faults and shortcomings?

If I sent messages to my child about what they do well, would that change anything for my child? Would they feel more confident? More secure?

What if every teacher looked at each student and asked, “What do they do well?” and then individualized to that student? How would learning and educational outcomes improve?

Do you have a partner in life? When you look at them do you see what they do well or the things they do that annoy you? Or their failings? And shortcomings? Are you lifting up and strengthening your relationship or slowly killing it?

At work, does your manager know what you do well? What are your strengths? What would happen for you at work if they asked you, “What do you do well?” Could you answer?

If you are a leader or manager at work, do you know what your employees do well? Do you know their strengths? Have you ever thought about it? Have you ever asked? What might change at work if your employees knew they were known for what they do well and what are their strengths? How might your work teams change? Might there be less conflict? Might some employees be more focussed, put in more effort? Would staff turnover reduce?

Focus on what OTHERS are good at

When you ask people what they do well, you may at first, get hesitation and caution, but once people start to identify what they do well, they become energised. Their language becomes animated, their eyes light up.

Isn’t this what we all want, energy, and affirmation?

When you are asking people what they do well, you are asking about their talents.

Most people will respond with tasks. I do tasks really well. But what is the talent they use to do the task well?

Ask yourself what you do well and what is the talent you use to do this?

Developing your strengths in leadership begins with identifying your talents

Click on Learn More to find your talents and how to develop them into leadership strengths to be a positive leader